CEM 10: MANAGING RELATIONSHIP (Customs, Etiquettes and Manners)

Ø        There are three basic spheres to help co-exist in a Relationship:-

:           Learn to be a gracious gentleman or lady.

:           You must know how to handle sticky situations with tact and decency.

:           It is important to show good manners and appreciation in all your dealings with people. Discourtesy: an intentional mannerism which is the biggest enemy of relationship. Try to be on the same wave length.

Friendship: Whoever finds a friend finds a treasure, cherish friendship by being polite and helpful to each other. This requires a lot of mutual effort from both.

Spouse:

:           Never take relationship for granted, or be possessive / jealous.

:           Give space to each other.

:           Keep confidentiality and secrecy.

:           Do not try to patronize him/her. Treat him/her with consideration and care. Learn to respect his feelings and be sensitive to his needs.

Neighbours:

:            Establish cordial relations.

:           Avoid getting involved in gossip.

:           Do not be isolated altogether.

:           Relationships are tricky; keep your distance without being rude.

:           Do not lose privacy.

Servants/Assistants

:           Be open and friendly without actually being friends.

:           Do not constantly remind them that they are your inferiors.

:           Treat them well but not intimately

:           Servants, to be given orders politely but firmly.

:           Deal with situations sensibly and quietly and tell them not to repeat it again.

:           Never show them how dependant you are.

Teacher-Student

:           This relationship calls for a lot of caution and care.

:           Proper respect and not be judgemental.

:           Be impartial and not discriminate between the students.

:           Good conduct and the respect shown to each other builds up mutual relationship.

Customer-Shopkeeper

:           Do not make the mistake (if you are a customer) of expecting to be waited  upon.

:           The shopkeeper/assistant is not your personal servant.

:             Do not shop in a larger group; it will put off other customers who think it is too crowded.

:             Do not haggle where it is not an accepted practice.

:             Do not be rude, tense or abusive.

:             As a shopkeeper, greet your customer with a smile.

:             An honest shopkeeper is appreciated

:             Be accomodative.

Parent – Child

:           Refrain from double standards.

:           Observe good behaviour, attitude and ways of dealing with children.

:           Practice what you preach eg. What is right and wrong differentiate (age to understand)

:           Be a ready listener and listen patiently

:           Be open in communicating with each other for a healthy relationship; (giving your undivided attention).

:           No favouritism between children.

:         Play your cards right, you will be amply rewarded by a sincere loving, caring, long-lasting relationship in life.

Also Read:

CEM 1: Etiquettes and Manners

CEM 2: Posture

CEM 3: Dress Code

CEM 4: Your Behaviour

CEM 5: Clarity
CEM 6: Extended Greetings
CEM 7: Dismissing or Escorting
CEM 8: Speaking and Listening

CEM 9: Conversation Starters