Cavalier India Defence Training Academy

Ø   Good table manners should be second nature right from the cradle. ü   Sophistication, upbringing, polite conversation education and skills are reflected on the table and table manners and puts you in perspective. ü   It can be inculcated; be familiar with the table settings, if a formal setting; work outwards-inwards. In an informal set up avoid offending others sensibilities, like talking with your mouth full, belching sound, waving your spoon/fork, over-loading the plate, talking aloud across the table, leaving used plate and cutlery on a serving table, using the napkin for wiping sweat or finger, spilling food around your plate, stretching out in front of your neighbour to reach for a particular dish while knocking down the water glass; slurping etc. ü   Ideal way is to watch others and follow normal courtesies; as different parts of our country have Indian eating habits relying upon fingers, depending upon the cultural cusines. ü   We may claim to have become modern and western

Ø         There are three basic spheres to help co-exist in a Relationship :- :           Learn to be a gracious gentleman or lady. :           You must know how to handle sticky situations with tact and decency. :           It is important to show good manners and appreciation in all your dealings with people. Discourtesy: an intentional mannerism which is the biggest enemy of relationship. Try to be on the same wave length. Friendship : Whoever finds a friend finds a treasure, cherish friendship by being polite and helpful to each other. This requires a lot of mutual effort from both. Spouse: :           Never take relationship for granted, or be possessive / jealous. :           Give space to each other. :           Keep confidentiality and secrecy. :           Do not try to patronize him/her. Treat him/her with consideration and care. Learn to respect his feelings and be sensitive to his needs. Neighbours: :            Establish cordial relations. :           Avoid getting involve

Ø   CONVERSATIONAL STARTERS : ü   Friends and acquaintences; easy talk. ü   Strangers; initiate on a general topic. ü   Intimate gatherings; subject of common interest, anecdotes ü   Refrain from talking shop ü   With the elderly and family friends; it is better to let them do the talking: avoid criticism; even if you disagree. Ø   USING FLATTERING WISELY : -           There is an art of flattering someone. To put you in their good books -           To compliment sincerely in order to follow in the favour of someone. -           To portray someone favourably; ü   Do not overdo, sound authentic. ü   Be honest, while having a definite motive i.e., impact. Ø   AVOID SLANG : ü   Slang is often used when talking with your  peer group. Taken to extremes, this is rude behaviour especially with Ladies and Elders. ü   With elders keep slang out of your talk, give due respect. ü   Slang often displays a sense of belonging, at a college level. Ø   CONVERSATION WITH YOUNG CHILDREN : ü   Learning /

. Ø   SPEAKING SKILLS : ü   Key is confidence, content, delivery & voice. ü   Observe your listeners reaction to you. ü   Avoid long-winded talk..... tends to make everyone uncomfortable. ü   Too fast or too slow or an accent that is hard to understand, avoid! Remedy is by listening to the way others speak and how yours differs; self improvement (mirror practice) is recommended. Ø   LISTENING : ü   Listening to others is an Art in itself. ü   An integral part of Etiquette ü   A supreme compliment to a speaker. ü   Focus your attention on the person who is speaking and do not interrupt. ü   Look the speaker directly in the eye. ü   Lean slightly forward if you are sitting, to indicate interest. (And if possible sit closer to the speaker). ü   Certain gestures and body language may beef up interest.. ü   As a good listener you are expected to react to what you are learning. ü   If you disagree with the point being made, speak in the right tone. Also Read: CEM 1:  Etiquettes and Manne